Yahoo account story continued

[floatingleaf]

Wanna hear a funny story? Okay. So I emailed my ex-roommate again last night about that customer code I need in order to access my Yahoo mail. It took a lot for me to actually write that email, since she had totally ignored the two previous ones; but I figured I might try again, just to be sure I had done all I could to retrieve that mailbox before Yahoo wipes it out (which, I assumed, would happen in about two weeks). So I very calmly and politely informed her that I never meant any offence against her, regardless of what she might think, and that I would really appreciate that small helpful gesture. And guess what? She wrote back today, telling me very calmly and cheerfully that she has no intention whatsoever of giving me access to her internet account, and that it was actually her who changed my password after I moved out. Why? Because I don't live with her anymore. Period.

I was speechless. I just couldn't believe it. Not that she would do it, but that she would take almost three fucking months to even let me know. And then say it like it was the most obvious thing in the world. I swear I almost blew a fuse (and it takes a LOT to make me angry). But since I pride myself on being very calm and collected, I somehow controlled my murderous rage and wrote her back in polite language, saying that all I care about is MY PRIVATE EMAIL and that, since she doesn't want to give me access to the AT&T account, maybe she could create a separate free account and transfer the contents of my Yahoo mailbox to it - and then give me the password to that. And since I felt really uncomfortable asking her for any favors, I said I wasn't expecting her to do that for me out of the goodness of her heart, but was willing to pay her for it. It wasn't meant as an insult - though I admit I didn't care much whether she might get offended or not. It wasn't like I had anything more to lose, anyway.:(

And she wrote back right away, telling me very haughtily that I was audacious to even suggest this and that she doesn't wish for me to try contacting her any more.

Very well. Not that I intended to, anyway. She pretty much told me all I needed to know.:/

Arrogant, vindictive bitch. I hope she chokes to death on her overwhelming sense of righteousness and superiority. I am audacious, because I think I have the right to demand access to my private email, which she has arbitrarily denied me without so much as a warning. If this is some sick idea of revenge for that stupid drain clog, which she thought I was responsible for, than I have indeed underestimated her sweet personality to cosmic proportions. See, my problem is that I always want to believe in the goodwill of other people. And when someone like that shows their true colors, I am stunned. Because I know I just wouldn't do that to her, had our roles been reversed - no matter how many drains I thought she might have clogged, intentionally or not. But that's just me - the eternal fool. Watch, world, and laugh.

And that's the end of tonight's accidental entertainment. *sigh*

Comments

[crowdaughter.livejournal.com]

Reposted for editing the spelling errors and making this post readable.

Um, did I get this right: she is using your phone company account, paid by you, for her e-mail, and is withholding *your* e-mail from you that way?

I would say, there is one way out of this.

1) send a written information about your termination of the account to whatever company it is where you have the account. Use your payment information; if you can get an account miovement information from your bank account, you should get a code that tells them what account you wish to delete. After all, the bank account needs to have a number for which phone company account the payment is given, does it not? that way they have to know what account you wish to delete: it is the one they received the money for, so far.
2) stop the payment for the old phone/email account at your bank account.
3) Get another, new phone company and mail provider and a new e-mail account from another provider, so you have an e-mail account and a phone account where just you have access and can use it.
4) Inform all your friends and business contacts of this change; make sure they stop using your old e-mail address;
5) THEN leave your *old* e-mail adress (the one she is still using) liberately at many websites where it will be picked up by any spam-bot that is out there to look for new victims and receivers of spam mail;
6) watch her cursing and deleting the e-mail-adress she should never have had access to in the first place, because it becomes now unusable due to all the spam;
7) and, very important: make sure that *she* does not know *your* new e-mail-address and your new Internet provider.

Evil, I know, but so is using somebody else's account and money at one's own convenience just because one wishes to do so.

I hope that way you can solve the problem. After all, if you send your termination information to the company in written form, then they cannot insist that you should give the password, can they? and if you fail to pay them for that account, it will be terminated, sooner or later, anyway, or do I get this wrong?

(Shakes head at your former roommate)

[floatingleaf.livejournal.com]

Uhhh... no. I'm afraid you did not get this right.:) Which is not your fault, of course. I did not explain the whole situation this time, because it's just another one of the many posts I have made about this since I moved.

She is not using my phone company account. I don't have one any more. It was her account all along, but when I lived with her, I was paying half of it, and had my Yahoo email address connected to it. But BEFORE that, I used to have a free Yahoo account - and so I thought I would be able to switch back to it after I moved, without losing all the stuff I had saved in my mail folders over the years. But in order to cancel the paid account and switch to a free one, I need to be able to access it, of course, and prove that I am indeed its owner. Which I cannot do anymore, because she changed my password right after I moved out, and never even told me about it, so that I wouldn't have to waste my time trying to contact Yahoo & the phone company in order to figure out what happened. And why did she do this? Because she could. Because she doesn't trust me. Because she seems to think I am unreliable; maybe even suspects I wanted to still use the paid mail account without actually paying fot it. I TOLD her, repeatedly, that I just need the account information in order to CANCEL my paid account and switch my saved mail back to a FREE one - but she either didn't get that or chose not to believe it. So there's nothing I can do.

Use your payment information

I don't have that. She is the one paying the bills. My bank account was never in any way connected to the phone/internet service at her place. All I did was hand her a check once a month with my rent + my share of the bills. And that is precisely why I cannot prove anything to anyone. To that phone company, I am a non-existent person. They don't have my name in their records. They only have an email address, which used to be mine, and still has all my private correspondence in it - but which I cannot access anymore. Now, if my ex-roommate was a different kind of person and wanted to help me, she would explain the situation to them herself, or give me the information I need, so that I could do it. But, if the recent turn of events is anything to go by, it's not going to happen.:(

Get another, new phone company and mail provider

I don't need a new phone company. I have a cell phone, and my new internet service is cable, so there's no need for me to pay for a landline. And of course I have a new email account. All I am whinging about is my old saved email, because I am a sentimental fool like that. You know, all the slash fiction from the Yahoo Groups, feedback for MY fiction, replies to LJ comments etc. I've been saving it all meticulously over the years, stacking it neatly into appropriate mail folders. And now it's all as good as gone, because my ex-roommate doesn't like me.:/

if you send your termination information to the company in written form, then they cannot insist that you should give the password, can they?

I have no idea - but I wouldn't want to terminate that account even if I could. I just want the contents of it back.:(

I hope I was able to clarify the whole thing. Oh, and btw, she is not using my email address (or at least I hope not... lol). We had separate ones, but they were both part of the same phone/internet account. And since one person can have multiple Yahoo ID's, there is no way for me to prove that I was actually a different person using one of them. Which is why she could kick me out of my mailbox so easily. I just never thought she'd be that mean - or I'd take care of the whole problem BEFORE I moved. There is a saying that some people are only wise after they have been fooled. Too true, I'm afraid.:(

Well... sorry for the looong rant, and thanks for trying to help anyway.:)