I know where you come from, and I can empathize with the feeling of loss and emptiness. I have a hard time finding back into my second fandom (LOTR is my first one), too. And I think standing by a friend who made a mistake, or even committed a crime, is not a sign of cowardice, or lack of morals. It is a sign of being a good friend.
I think it is much worse if people who have claimed to be good buddies backstab a former friend, and lose no time to wash their hands off him/her and tick the hunters on him/her, as soon as the person in question is down. Such a thing leaves a bad taste in my mouth. And this is what makes healing from all this so much harder: because the way some people acted during all of this really threw me off.
But otherwise, I think that you can disagree with somebodies actions and beliefs, and still be their friend. That is no cowardice, or failure of character. It is called friendship.
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Date: 2008-04-06 12:30 pm (UTC)I think it is much worse if people who have claimed to be good buddies backstab a former friend, and lose no time to wash their hands off him/her and tick the hunters on him/her, as soon as the person in question is down. Such a thing leaves a bad taste in my mouth. And this is what makes healing from all this so much harder: because the way some people acted during all of this really threw me off.
But otherwise, I think that you can disagree with somebodies actions and beliefs, and still be their friend. That is no cowardice, or failure of character. It is called friendship.