Thank you for sharing all this with me. I really appreciate it.
I did some therapy too, and of course it ended up revolving around my mother, even though I had no idea it would be so when I started it. I literally made myself ill in order to escape the pressures she was putting on me - and didn't even realize what I was doing until my therapist explained it to me. To this day, my mother doesn't know to what extent she had caused my 'illness'. If she did know, she would be terrified. So there's no way I can be fully open and honest with her, ever.
the process of separating and becoming close again
That's a great way of putting it. I wish it could happen for me some day...
it is still your life, and you need to be happy with your choices. Which you can only do if they are *your* choices, not hers.
That's very true. I wonder what would happen if I told her that.;)
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Date: 2009-08-31 12:17 am (UTC)I did some therapy too, and of course it ended up revolving around my mother, even though I had no idea it would be so when I started it. I literally made myself ill in order to escape the pressures she was putting on me - and didn't even realize what I was doing until my therapist explained it to me. To this day, my mother doesn't know to what extent she had caused my 'illness'. If she did know, she would be terrified. So there's no way I can be fully open and honest with her, ever.
the process of separating and becoming close again
That's a great way of putting it. I wish it could happen for me some day...
it is still your life, and you need to be happy with your choices. Which you can only do if they are *your* choices, not hers.
That's very true. I wonder what would happen if I told her that.;)
Thank you again.