No need to apologize. I miss people's birthdays all the time.:P
Would it maybe help if you wrote down what you want to ask and how you'd like to ask it before you made the first call?
Oh yeah, I always do that. I mean, not the writing down part, but I always have a very detailed 'script' in my head before I call anyone. It does help a bit, but still... I mean, it is all very well if the person on the other end responds in a predictable way - but if they surprise me with something, I sometimes tend to just draw a blank and either start babbling or just clamp my mouth shut for 30 seconds or so, until they start wondering whether I'm still there. In a worst case scenario, I would freak out and disconnect. But I obviously can't do that during a business call at work, so I might just keep on babbling to save the day and end up saying something really stupid instead.:/
if it goes well, you will become better and more secure with ever call you finished
Yeah. That's the key phrase. If it goes well. If it doesn't, I will get truly paranoid about the next call and it will end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom. (I am sooo good at positive thinking, aren't I?... *mirthless snort*)
As for the birthday dinner - darn. Hope it will be a wonderful evening, anyway.
Well, I missed my sister & brother-in-law, because they had to leave early, as usual.:/ But this isn't the first case of miscommunication in my family, since we're all a little scatterbrained - so there are no hard feelings about it, most of the time. I think I am forgiven.;)
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
(no subject)
Date: 2010-03-09 01:05 am (UTC)Would it maybe help if you wrote down what you want to ask and how you'd like to ask it before you made the first call?
Oh yeah, I always do that. I mean, not the writing down part, but I always have a very detailed 'script' in my head before I call anyone. It does help a bit, but still... I mean, it is all very well if the person on the other end responds in a predictable way - but if they surprise me with something, I sometimes tend to just draw a blank and either start babbling or just clamp my mouth shut for 30 seconds or so, until they start wondering whether I'm still there. In a worst case scenario, I would freak out and disconnect. But I obviously can't do that during a business call at work, so I might just keep on babbling to save the day and end up saying something really stupid instead.:/
if it goes well, you will become better and more secure with ever call you finished
Yeah. That's the key phrase. If it goes well. If it doesn't, I will get truly paranoid about the next call and it will end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom. (I am sooo good at positive thinking, aren't I?... *mirthless snort*)
As for the birthday dinner - darn. Hope it will be a wonderful evening, anyway.
Well, I missed my sister & brother-in-law, because they had to leave early, as usual.:/ But this isn't the first case of miscommunication in my family, since we're all a little scatterbrained - so there are no hard feelings about it, most of the time. I think I am forgiven.;)