this is all so very, very familiar. in my case it was with my closest friend rather than a romantic partner, but so familiar nonetheless.
i'm sorry you went through all that. you're right, though; it's a huge learning experience. a tiny example of that principle occurred for me while working yesterday. my boss has warned me several times about what a mess a certain processing mistake can make, and i've heard him... but yesterday, i did make that mistake. i can tell you, that lesson is learned now. just doing it wrong that one time was so much more impactful to me; i know it won't happen again.
hopefully the same principle holds for relationships, right? *hugs*
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Date: 2010-02-22 05:09 pm (UTC)i'm sorry you went through all that. you're right, though; it's a huge learning experience. a tiny example of that principle occurred for me while working yesterday. my boss has warned me several times about what a mess a certain processing mistake can make, and i've heard him... but yesterday, i did make that mistake. i can tell you, that lesson is learned now. just doing it wrong that one time was so much more impactful to me; i know it won't happen again.
hopefully the same principle holds for relationships, right? *hugs*